Our next piece is named after Chevelle Sokoluk who has been struggling with infertility for over two years and does not have any children. When asked Chevelle how infertility has impacted her mental or emotional well-being she explained that this journey has been deeply exhausting, mentally, and physically. Month after month, the letdown sinks deeper, and the weight doesn’t reset the way people assume it does. Each cycle carries hope, fear, anticipation, and then often grief. Our healthcare system adds another layer of stress. Being told that pregnancy at 35 is considered “geriatric” feels terrifying when she is only 31 and still hoping not just for one child, but possibly more than one. It turns time into an enemy and creates a constant sense of urgency and panic around something that is already out of my control. Emotionally, the waiting is brutal. The lead-up to testing is overwhelming, every symptom feels loaded. She’s experienced those early pregnancy symptoms twice before with positive tests that ended in miscarriage, and she also experienced those exact same symptoms only to get her period. Living in that space of not knowing, wondering if her body is preparing for life or for loss, has created intense emotional whiplash. After two miscarriages back to back, she was told to “keep trying,” because further testing isn’t done unless you’ve had three consecutive losses. Being told to continue without answers, while actively grieving, made her feel dismissed and invisible. On top of that, she is at an age where it feels like everyone around her is having children. Social media is filled with pregnancy announcements, baby showers, and birth stories. She currently has four close friends who are pregnant, about to give birth, or have just had babies. She truly loves them and feels grateful to be part of their lives, but at the same time, she feels incredibly broken. She worked so hard not to project her pain onto them because their joy is real and deserved, but that doesn’t erase her grief. Holding happiness for others while grieving your own reality is one of the most exhausting emotional balances she has ever had to carry. When we asked Chevelle what has been the hardest part of infertility that people don’t talk about she said the guilt. The guilt of not feeling as happy as you think you should feel when others announce pregnancies. The guilt of feeling sadness alongside joy. The guilt of wondering if something is wrong with you for feeling that way. Another hard part is the monthly cycle of disappointment—building yourself up, preparing emotionally, and then convincing yourself you’re okay when it doesn’t happen. Theres also the quiet, painful process of trying to accept the idea of not being a mother, even when thats the one thing that occupies your thoughts daily. Its grieving something one never had, over and over again. When asked Chevelle what emotions do you feel most often that people don’t see she explained that she cries over the smallest things, and people don’t see how mentally and exhausting that is. The emotion that surprises her the most is anger, anger at her body, anger at the lack of control, and anger at how unfair it feels. She feels angry watching others get pregnant so easily, share their stories, and experience moments that she desperately wants but cant access. Theres anger in having to quietly carry miscarriages and infertility while the world continues on as if nothing happened. Its not anger rooted in bitterness—its anger rooted in grief. We asked Chevelle what helps her get through moments of grief and uncertainty she explained regular psychology appointments have been essential for her. Having a safe space to process this without judgement has helped her survive moments that felt unbearable. Her support system matters deeply. Her husband is incredibly supportive, he builds her up, reminds her that somethings are simply beyond their control, and never makes her feel like this journey is something she has to carry alone. He also reminds her that she shows up with so much love in other ways, including the best aunt anyone can ask for. That love doesn’t replace motherhood, but it reminds her that her capacity to nurture is real and meaningful. When asked what is something people say about infertility that is hurtful, even if they mean well she explained the statements that sound like “just keep trying,” “it will happen when its meant to,” “just don’t think about it,” “youre focusing too much on it,” “maybe youre just not meant to be a mother.” These comments dismiss the complexity, pain, and trauma of infertility. They place responsibility back onto the person struggling, as if effort, mindset, or positivity could override biology and loss. When asked what Chevelle wished people would stop asking her she explained when people ask “when are you having a child?” “Your maternal clock is ticking!” “You know you are getting old..hurry up and give me a grandchild,” “are you pregnant yet?” “Oh you’re not drinking…are you pregnant.” These questions turn everyday moments into emotional landmines. They assume answers, timelines, and outcomes that may not exist, and they force people to either disclose deeply personal pain or deflect it. When asked what compassionate support actually looks like to Chevelle she explained that it would look like being allowed to exist in this without being fixed. Listening without trying to solve. It’s not rushing me toward hope or optimism when she is sitting in grief. It’s checking in without expectations, remembering important dates, and understanding that some days she may want connection and other days she may need space. It’s asking what she needs instead of assuming. Sometimes compassionate support is showing up. Sometimes giving space. And sometimes it's simply saying, “I don’t know what to say, but I’m here.” That matters more than people realize. When asked what would you say to other women walking the path of infertility she said that you are not broken. You are not behind. And you are not failing at womanhood. This journey will demand strength you didn’t ask for and patience you didn’t know you had. It will bring waves of grief, hope, anger, and longing, sometimes all at once. Be gentle with yourself. Your body is not betraying you; it’s navigating something complex and deeply human. You are allowed to feel joy for others and sadness for yourself at the same time. You don’t owe anyone optimism, explanations, or timelines. And even on the days it feels unbearably lonely, please know you are not alone.
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Size Guide
*Just a reminder with sizing you double the waist and since it is an elastic band waist add 2-4 inches.*
Small- Waist: 11" Pant Length: 40.2"
Medium- Waist: 11.4" Pant Length:40.6"
Large- Waist: 11.8" Pant Length:40.9"
Extra Large- Waist: 12.2" Pant Length:41.3"
